Becoming a parent is a major life milestone and one of the biggest transformative experiences you’ll ever have. During pregnancy, your priorities, values, and expectations will shift, surprising not only yourself but also your family, partner, employer, and friends.

It’s okay to feel excitement and joy but also anxiousness and fear at the same time when preparing for a new baby. This is a big transition in your life, and it is completely normal to feel a wide range of emotions. It’s hard to predict how you’ll feel once your baby arrives, so we’ve put together some helpful tips to guide you through this exciting new adventure.

Guide to preparing for your new baby

1. Ready. Set. Plan. Having a baby (especially your first) can feel like a huge leap into the unknown. It's hard to predict everything that’s going to change, but one thing's for certain—your life will change. The sense of uncertainty from having a baby can cause feelings of anxiety and stress.

Some things to consider:

• Create a parenting checklist before your baby comes to help make the most of your baby's first year
• Develop a financial cushion
• Discuss with your employer about your return to work, the post-leave transitions, parental leave etc.
• Split household tasks with your partner and create a schedule to complete those tasks

Having a plan will give you a sense of control and competence, but flexibility is important too. During the first few weeks after your baby arrives, schedules will probably go out the window as you adjust to your new normal. Knowing there’s a plan and schedule in place will help you return to a comfortable routine more quickly.

2. Don’t aim for perfection. Here’s a little secret: you’re going to make mistakes, and that’s okay. Most first-time parents worry about their ability to parent effectively, but the truth is you’re not going to be a perfect parent, because perfect parents don’t exist!

Note: Children don’t need perfect parents. They need committed, loving parents who are trying their best. Parenting is a learning curve with lots of trial and error. Make mistakes, acknowledge them, and try again! Babies are remarkably resilient; your baby will be just fine.

3. Take care of yourself too. Don’t forget to take care of yourself too! During pregnancy, your body is working overtime and physical fatigue can worsen the symptoms of emotional overload. Spend at least a few minutes everyday to nurture yourself.

Here are some things you can try:

• Taking quick naps
• Going on walks
• Trying low-impact workouts like yoga
• Meditating or getting a prenatal massage
• Stocking up on healthy snacks

Going to bed early and maintaining a consistent schedule will also help strengthen both your physical and emotional reserves needed to cope with the challenges of labor and the first few weeks of parenting.

Note: You’ll probably receive advice throughout your pregnancy about things that worked for your friends, family, or coworkers. Keep in mind: what worked for them may not work for you. Listen to your body and do what you think is best for you.

4. Work together…not against each other. The changes in pregnancy and parenthood may cause relationship stress as both you and your partner are adapting to your new lives and roles. Be patient with each other and share honest thoughts about doubts, hopes, and fears. Accept those inevitable differences in temperament and priorities, which often become more obvious as you prepare for a new baby. Remember, you guys are in this together.

5. Build your support squad. As you prepare for childbirth, it’s completely normal to turn your focus inward and feel exhausted after a long day. However, try to not isolate yourself from friends entirely. Family and friends can be a great source of nurturing support both now and when the baby’s here.

Tip: Too tired to go out after a long day? Plan a weekend brunch date or an afternoon movie with your friends. Maintaining healthy relationships and asking for help is essential as your baby’s arrival gets closer.

Pregnancy brings big changes and transitions to your life. It’s an ideal time to express any fears or doubts you might have, strengthen your support network, and create a stable, predictable environment for your family.